I've been raped. it was about a year ago but i keep having dreams about it? how do i get rid of them?

it will be off and on. for a week or so ill have them practically every night. and then for awhile i won't. and so on. i need to know how to try and stop them.

I've been raped. it was about a year ago but i keep having dreams about it? how do i get rid of them?
I've been raped befor to and it's really hard to go through. It was about a1 year and a half ago and i still have nightmares about it. You should try counselling or talking to someone you trust. It helps to write poetry to just to get all the feelings out. Try writing down how you felt and then burn it as if your burning it away. But in reality you never really forget but some how it makes you stronger because you get through it. Pray leave a bible open on your dresser. Have faith even if you don't believe you'll get through it. I know it's hard but try to go to bed with good thoughts, or happy.


The very best of luck to you. I'll be praying for you.
Reply:I was a victim of a rape 4 years ago and understand what you are going through. If you have not had counseling, then I would urge you to seek out counselors that specialize in victims of sexual assaults. I found that the combination of counseling and the love and support of my friends and family helped me deal with the after effects of being raped. Talking things out with counselors helps you stop repressing the painful memories. Because such repression is usually the reason that the memories come back in the form of dreams, eventually you will find that counseling makes those dreams diminish and eventually they almost disappear.





Best of luck to you.
Reply:Counselors and psychologists will help you :)
Reply:Have you had counseling since this happened? If not, you probably really need to, because as hard as it may be, things like this can't be crushed down... you have to deal with the feelings and fears it has stirred inside of you.





Also, try to notice if the dreams happen in correlation with other events in your life.





Do they happen when you have PMS? Could be the hormone/emotion connection.





Do they happen when you meet or come in contact with new men or those you do not know well? Could be stranger anxiety due to what happened to you. Until you see if the new person poses a threat, you can't feel safe.





Does it happen when you are put in a situation to have to spend time alone with a man... perhaps at work, or any other scenario where it's just you and a man alone together? Again, this could make you feel vulnerable.





If you have any relationships at work or elsewhere in which you feel intimidated or dominated by a male, it could trigger the rape dreams. Even women who've never been raped might respond this way to a dominating male, so confrontations or encounters that intimidate could be a dream trigger.





If you have to go somewhere new you've not been before, especially alone, could be another situation that could make you feel vulnerable and trigger the dream.





A few notes on your calender could help you recognize these connections. If you see a pattern develop, you could even anticipate these dreams ahead of time and deal with the emotion while still awake, though prayer and affirming to yourself, "I'm NOT going to let him do this to me!" You might decide to invite a friend along if you go somewhere you've not been before, or where you feel threatened.





I pray you can pinpoint your triggers continue to heal and be able to sleep peacefully. God bless you.
Reply:It may sound weird but.... rape someone else








Oh and dont put questions like this on Yahoo
Reply:wen u r having fun, u 4get all bout dem memories. if u r depressed sumdays, go ova ya gilfriends/friends house n talk among each otha. dont cry, never. think bout sumthin happy. chillax n drink sum tea.
Reply:This has happened to me as well.





I revert back to some advice someone once gave me. If it still bothers you, that means that the perpetrator has won.





I have an ego. I could not let that remain truth. I did everyting I could to start living my life for me, and not do things out of fear of him. My life is my own, my choices are my own and my happiness is earned by ME. besides, it is well documented that women are the stronger sex, emotionally. All you need is faith in yourself and one shoulder you can trust to help you through the last few bumps.





Don't let one donkey ruin you for the other good men I see in your future. That donkey isn't worth that kind of power over you, is he?





I got over it. I do still have some minor issues, but nothing that can't be worked out with my hubby of 8 strong and happy years.
Reply:The reason you keep having these dreams may be due to the place you stay. You no longer feel safe and secure in your room. Perhaps you should move to another place where you will have that sense of security.
Reply:I have been there as well. You can get better with time, love and understanding. You may be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. Go to Pandora'sAquarium or to RAINN ( google them) to see about help and to talk to others with same issues. Good Luck.
Reply:Talking to a therapist could help you. Also there is hypnotherapy (don't know if this is something you are interested in), which some have told me actually works. Maybe the person can take you back and help you forget the memory. If you can't just forget it, but don't want to have these bad dreams maybe just talking out what you think keeps giving you these dreams would be best. Was it the fact that you felt violated? Are you afraid it will happen again? These are things you might want to think about. It's natural that something traumatic like that is going to be with you for a while. I hope you have a strong support unit of friends and family. Keep them close and I wish you luck.
Reply:Have you tried therapy? Go see if you can talk to a psychologist and maybe you're be able to work it out. Good luck.