Do guys know how much it hurts girls when they act 'distant'?

Do you guys know you're doing it (when you do)?

Do guys know how much it hurts girls when they act 'distant'?
Not if you dont show them! Act like your not bothered they will soon get board and stop.
Reply:Then DO as They DO. What's good for the goose is good for the gander! Don't let anyone tell you he is a better person.


Why would you be hurt? There's MILLIONS of guys out there.


Don't play their game!
Reply:only wen thers sumthin on my mind


and then its usually a bigger problem than your girlfriend thinking your in a mood
Reply:actually


some guys knw and they try not to hurt girls .


but


some guys dont knw that they r hurting


and


some guys enjoy hurting girls
Reply:They most likely wouldnt, and its because they dont realise they are doing it half the time, you need to say "you have been really distant".
Reply:no they retarded.just no matter how much u think u cant just act like u do not care about him he'll come around.im not sure if they do kno or not.they act all oblivious and innocent i think theyre full of it.
Reply:If you are talking about acting distant in a b/f-g/f relationship or a marriage; yes I do know. It always hurt me a lot when a girl or woman did that to "punish me" when she was angry at me.





Sometimes a person (boy or girl) is not "acting distant", they are preoccupied with a serious problem of their own. We must not assume that when someone acts distant that it has something to do with us, often it doesn't.





What to do if a person seems distant is to ask them what they are thinking about and to tell them that they seem distant. Hopefully they will tell you the truth and if they lie, hopefully they will be a bad enough liar that we will know that they are lying.





It is true that we can care too much about other peoples moods and assume that they are do to us. I have that problem. It started when I was a small boy and stemm form me feeling rejected and abandoned, rejected, and unloved by my mother.





It caused my self esteem in romantic relationsips to be very low and for me to look for and assume there was rejection even when that wasn't the case. I did work on this and improved quite a bit until my wife divorced me when I became physically disabled. Now I have to work on that issue again.





The good news is the problem is correctable. A good psychologist can be helpful but there are many psychologists out there that are not very helpful. There are also some good self help books in the bookstores. There too there are books that do more harm than good. I am tired and 1/2 brain dead in the present. If you are interested in my recomending some work
Reply:no b/c men are idiots. cheers.
Reply:their not "acting" distant dear, they just are...another term for it would be slloooww.....stop being so sensitive
Reply:whats that suppose to mean?
Reply:No, i can't say we do...for us, its just usually out of frustration and we don't care how you feel in that moment.
Reply:Some men are jerks. They know it hurts you so they do it. They are playing you to see of you react. It gives them an ego boost.
Reply:I really don't think they do. I broke up with the last guy because of acting distant (read 2+ months of being ignored more often than not) and he was beyond surprised that that was my first reason for kicking him to the curb.
Reply:maybe they or you just care way too much.


maybe if you focus on you, he will too.
Reply:i doubt it.
Reply:yeh whts all about ! man guys are idiots but we cant live with out them !!
Reply:I do not think so.We do not mean it.
Reply:actually no..,does it hurts...?well i do not go distance from anyone maybe...