A tragic love story! it really hurts, who wants to help me? :(?

Going out with my best friend(A) for about a month, but realized that i'm definately not in love with him but caring much about him and experienced a lot harship recently so i really need him. However the real problem is that, i've just become close with his one of old best friends (B) who used to be my college mate but now he is in another city for education. Anyway, he really fell in love with me and i consider his feelings as not real but later he showed up at my city and i realized that his feelings are real and i also really begin to fall in love with him!


however, considering that my relationship has just begun, B doesnt know about it and i've always thought that he knows about my relationship.


After this point, B and i said to ourselves that we can not do such thing to A so we just farewelled and decided not to talk again. But i have a great agony in my heart, i really love him and cant stop crying , this is real love ...! what should i do?

A tragic love story! it really hurts, who wants to help me? :(?
am confused as ur honey..
Reply:try to convince him his parent to stay , take his email saty in touch , i know its hard
Reply:its a real luv
Reply:If you really love B, you have to be true to yourself. It's not fair on you and is definately not fair on A, being is love with someone else is bad, but being in love with someone else, and lying and pretending is much more hurtful.
Reply:THIS is a tragedy? Not exactly Romeo and Juliet is it? I expected more from you.





Anyway - you made your choice and said goodbye to the guy so either get in touch and tell him it was a mistake or deal with it.





I think that 'A' will probably live through it.





Go on - admit it: you LOVE the drama.
Reply:Your life is very complicated and yet it gives one an example of how women flirt just with any body when they are free and away from their boyfriends
Reply:Be true to yourself and stop going out with A.


If it's meant to happen with B it will. And as you were only going out with A for a whole one month I'm sure if he is such a best friend he will respect your feelings.


Good luck I'm sure it will work out.
Reply:You should wait. You don't have the answer today, but you might tomorrow. In the scheme of things, though, it's always best to marry your best friend because sometimes, as Jimmy Carter once said, "love wanes," but an underlying deep friendship with your spouse will get you through most anything. It's like a warm blanket on a cold winter's night. You probably won't have that with "B," and as the years go by, it's what you'll need.
Reply:Pray about it ask god to so you his plan for your life. search your heart and see which one could really be your forever guy. staying with someone out of pity or friendship is not love. And would you want someone to stay with you for that reason alone. You can always go back to being good friends with A it may take time but maybe he realizes he feels the same way and is afraid to tell you for fear he will loose you too. God has a plan listen to your heat and you will figure it out.good luck
Reply:train A leaves the station going 60 miles, train B is stoped on the track, now thats tragic.


now on a serious note get them both to gether ....can you say threesome?
Reply:Wow . .tough one! And you don't know how "B" is taking this either because you decided not to talk again. Hummmm. I believe in being loyal to your friends - that is an important quality indeed. . ..but probably not to the point of something being this emotionally upsetting. I think you need to have a "sit-down" talk with "A" and spill your guts. I think that if you explain your feelings for him as the best friend (that you describe) and that you are relying on him to help you with this big decision, that "A" will honestly look at the big picture and show you that when it comes right down to it - he would want what is best for you and what would make you happy. I think the mere fact that you go to him about this would show him that you really care for him and value his friendship above all.
Reply:u really like him so dont give up
Reply:Caring and loving are two different things. You can care for the person and love the other, its obvious one wants to be with the one they love. So why not go for the one you love (old b/friend B) and see how things will go from there and he might even help you with your harship you are experiencing recently. And please please keep on being a caring friend for b/friend A. Gal, al i can say is that you should follow your heart, what do u want, wer are you be happy (with b/f A or with b/f B)?